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I celebrated my life spent on earth few days ago and upon reflection I realise just how many of us adults carry wounded children within us. Our responsibilities and everything else that we do to keep busy has covered up our childhood trauma and as a result we are blind to our childhood trauma and because we cannot touch it, we simply cannot see it. The levels of childhood trauma are different from person to person and it is the subtle trauma in the forms of struggling with fitting in with our peer groups, parental neglect or even abandonment were we tend to miss it! We are more open to recognising and calling out trauma once it's reached severe levels such as (obvious) abuse. As adults, we cannot take away the fact that we were once children at one time of our lives and just because we have grown older it doesn’t mean the children within us vanish. It is in adulthood were we should awaken our inner child from the unconscious parts of us. ✅We should (seek to) be proactive in fostering better and healthier relationships with ourselves and our 'past' so as to set free that which has been suppressed and respond to situations or challenges from a place of LOVE especially were our own children are concerned. -My birthday wish is to create safe environments for partnering, trust and connectedness which is what I have found to be the missing link with most parents who wish to stop power struggles and parent differently from how they were raised. - I have reserved your share of the cup cake --Follow on Instagram / Facebook @ Conscious_Thoko: - For safe environments for ourselves as parents and for our children to thrive! And learn MORE on • What influences how you parent • Five ways to cope with stress and build resilience • Pick a colour and live a stress free life • Awakening • Positive messages from children's songs • Identity • Conscious parenting tip: Keep it simple I cant wait to meet you, parents. Conscious_Thoko on Conscious Parenting

Paperback. English. Harvill Secker. 2007. In fair/good condition.The most important things are hardest to find words for, her father once said. That's why people make music. When Ana returns to the ramshackle cottage of her youth in the seaside village of Noordhoek, near Cape Town, she does so with the intention of sorting out her father's affairs. It soon becomes clear that more is at stake. After a decade in London, where she has failed to find work as a musician, her return to South Africa puts further distance into an already strained marriage, not only because she is out of reach, but because Michael, her husband, has lost faith in the country. Quick to welcome her is her neighbour, Franz van der Veer, an architect searching for redemption. This is further complicated by the arrival of his eccentric brother, Daniel. Against a tangle of childhood memories, scarred histories and renewed hope, Ana finally starts to confront the death of Sam, her Irish luthier father, and with it, questions of guilt and belonging. Lyrical and beautifully told, 'Quarter Tones' is a story about music and love and loss.